Dating outside of improv
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- arthursimone Offline
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never
in order to register anything in front of us as living and breathing, some of us require severe derangement to distract us from our own self-loathing. everything else is primordial ooze. some people are too nice and well-adjusted to be trusted.
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- deroosisonfire Offline
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my motto in undergrad was: it's not the first person in your improv group that you make out with that's the problem, it's the second.
from personal experience i've found that intragroup break-ups go all right if people act like adults. but when one person from the break-up starts dating another member of the community, that's when jealousy really kicks in and things start getting uncomfortable.
the thing i like about dating improvisers is that they get why this is so important to me. i don't get to do improv all the time, it's always a treat when i can brek away from school and play, and improvisers get that kind of passion.
i do also agree with brian, if i hung out constantly with musicians or painters or whatever i would probably date them. the only other people i spend time with is biologists and they are just not as fun as improvisers.
from personal experience i've found that intragroup break-ups go all right if people act like adults. but when one person from the break-up starts dating another member of the community, that's when jealousy really kicks in and things start getting uncomfortable.
the thing i like about dating improvisers is that they get why this is so important to me. i don't get to do improv all the time, it's always a treat when i can brek away from school and play, and improvisers get that kind of passion.
i do also agree with brian, if i hung out constantly with musicians or painters or whatever i would probably date them. the only other people i spend time with is biologists and they are just not as fun as improvisers.
"There's no such thing as extra pepperoni. There's just pepperoni you can transfer to another person."
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-Wes
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- HerrHerr Offline
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Amen. let's start a club, Bro.Wesley wrote:The healthiest thing to do is not to date anyone at all, but to develop puppy-love crushes on numerous women who don't even know you exist. It works for me.
Adult Puppy Love Crush Studs
Sometimes it's a form of love just to talk to somebody that you have nothing in common with and still be fascinated by their presence.
--David Byrne
--David Byrne
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i cry
every night thinking of how my severe genital warts will always prevent love between me and the man of my dreams
I'm a charming girl!
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- Brian Boyko Offline
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As of this moment I'm dating someone. She just doesn't know it and I'm not gonna screw it up by telling her. This is a good plan.HerrHerr wrote: Amen. let's start a club, Bro.
Adult Puppy Love Crush Studs
If it doesn't work out, I'm going to bottle my love down inside, pushing it deeper and deeper until one day I crack and it all comes spilling out in a violent wave of kindness and adulation for my fellow man.
I have been married to a non-improviser for almost 7 years (June 26th) and we have two wonderful children. She has seen me perform countless times but has slowly but surely come to fewer and fewer of my shows and this is fine by me. I know in my heart she is my number one fan.
I LOVE to flirt with improviser ladies, especially when I am drunk. I know that nothing will come of it but it is just a small reminder that I am not that terribly sheepish, awkward and cowardly person that I was before I first took "the stage" all those years ago.
I have been told that I am a pretty competitive person by nature but I never really try to win at anything but for some reason I usually win anyway. This frustrates a lot of people and I suppose this is probably why I would be terrible in a relationship with a fellow improviser.
I like to think that I am having a torrid affair with the women and men of the improv scene. It just happens to be one of a non-sexual nature where the relationships last for approximately 3 minutes and I get applauded for my efforts afterwards by complete strangers. Best of all, my wife is perfectly OK with this!!!
-Dav
I LOVE to flirt with improviser ladies, especially when I am drunk. I know that nothing will come of it but it is just a small reminder that I am not that terribly sheepish, awkward and cowardly person that I was before I first took "the stage" all those years ago.
I have been told that I am a pretty competitive person by nature but I never really try to win at anything but for some reason I usually win anyway. This frustrates a lot of people and I suppose this is probably why I would be terrible in a relationship with a fellow improviser.
I like to think that I am having a torrid affair with the women and men of the improv scene. It just happens to be one of a non-sexual nature where the relationships last for approximately 3 minutes and I get applauded for my efforts afterwards by complete strangers. Best of all, my wife is perfectly OK with this!!!
-Dav
"This football testoserone lovin mofo ain't diggin the jazz hands!"
Quoted from my wife when I was jazz handsing.
Quoted from my wife when I was jazz handsing.
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- Rev. Jordan T. Maxwell Offline
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y'know...i can honestly say i've never dated an improviser. don't ask me why that is. i like improvisers. there are many attractive female improvisers. i've messed around with a handful of improv girls, and flirted with quite a lot more than that (because i'm a hopeless flirt and it's who i am and i like it so leave me alone and BACK OFF! ahem...sorry). it's just never developed into a relationship. Maybe it's because i'm not AS involved in the improv community as some of the other fine people who've posted here. i just kind of hang out, do a few shows here and there, have some fun...but overall, i feel very much like i'm on the fringe of the community. which is where i've chosen to be, i suppose, and where i've always been even during the heyday of the Well Hung Jury. I don't know...maybe i'm just weird like that (enumerated along with the myriad other ways in which i'm weird. like for using words like "enumerated").
as for my non-improv relationships, it's been fine. my last girlfriend didn't really like improv that much, but still came out to support me every once in a while (though i'd usually wind up comping her ticket because she was willing to give of the emotional support, less so of the monetary variety). and that was fine. i wasn't into some of the stuff she was into. if i had rehearsals for sketch or improv, she'd get a little upset that i wasn't spending that time with her...but it would pass eventually. we had other problems in the relationship that led to its end, but improv was never an issue. my girlfriend before THAT was a lot more into it (though, to be fair, she was a fellow theatre major...whereas the girl mentioned above was most certainly not). on our first date, it turned out i had a Jury show that night...so we went out to dinner, and then she came to see me perform. and that was interesting because it felt like i was doing all of this stuff to try and impress her, like men have been doing for centuries. but since i can't build a car from scratch and i can't toss a caber or anything of that nature, i did what i do...perform. she came to a number of other improv shows i was in before we finally broke up...and she started dating another improviser (from my own troupe, to boot). so that had its difficulties in the beginning because she and i were both acting rather juvenile about it. but after a certain point...it got to be okay. maturity reared its beautiful bearded head and everyone's friends again. huzzah for happy endings!
then again, i think both of them were just using me for sex anyway, so this might all be moot.
as for my non-improv relationships, it's been fine. my last girlfriend didn't really like improv that much, but still came out to support me every once in a while (though i'd usually wind up comping her ticket because she was willing to give of the emotional support, less so of the monetary variety). and that was fine. i wasn't into some of the stuff she was into. if i had rehearsals for sketch or improv, she'd get a little upset that i wasn't spending that time with her...but it would pass eventually. we had other problems in the relationship that led to its end, but improv was never an issue. my girlfriend before THAT was a lot more into it (though, to be fair, she was a fellow theatre major...whereas the girl mentioned above was most certainly not). on our first date, it turned out i had a Jury show that night...so we went out to dinner, and then she came to see me perform. and that was interesting because it felt like i was doing all of this stuff to try and impress her, like men have been doing for centuries. but since i can't build a car from scratch and i can't toss a caber or anything of that nature, i did what i do...perform. she came to a number of other improv shows i was in before we finally broke up...and she started dating another improviser (from my own troupe, to boot). so that had its difficulties in the beginning because she and i were both acting rather juvenile about it. but after a certain point...it got to be okay. maturity reared its beautiful bearded head and everyone's friends again. huzzah for happy endings!
then again, i think both of them were just using me for sex anyway, so this might all be moot.
Sweetness Prevails.
-the Reverend
-the Reverend