Strength! That same kind of denial you outlined in your own family, victims of abuse face isolation because reality is such a difficult pill to swallow for those closest to them. Time and time again. This is no fluke.
The family made you feel guilty that your uncle abused you? While it doesn't surprise me -- shame on them! That kind of denial is inexcusable. Inexcusable.
Our emotional needs as humans are constantly at odds with our families, simply because they have imaginary roles they need us to fulfill.
I'm so sorry to hear your story but also strengthened by your own account of self realization.
Denial is brutal but you and I share that brand of personal determination and strength that says "damn the haters and deniers. I know what happened and choose to grow from this."
Break the cycle of abuse.
Good for you for going public. I don't know why you would feel weird about it. It's clear to me that you are demonstrating strength and not looking to play the victim.
And as should be clear with me... the public dialog pushes me in one direction. Not turning back. I can count on you years from now to say, "Jesse please tell me you didn't let the abuser back into your life."
As I will do the same for you.
I got your back! Glad to meet you!